|| In times of afflication we commonly
meet with the sweetest experiences of the love of God.
We are looking for short articles for a new book to
be titled, MEDITATIONS FOR THE BEREAVED. Whereas our previous
books have dealt with a single kinship, like the death of a spouse
or a child, this book will cover many relationships. We specifically
want to include articles on the death of a parent, grandparent,
sibling, favorite aunt or uncle, best friend, fiancée, teacher,
or student, as well as the death of a spouse or child. In
addition, we will consider other relationships such as a foster
parent, mentor, or coach, as long as the relationship was a significant
one. WHATEVER THE RELATIONSHIP, THE ARTICLE MUST BE WRITTEN IN THE
FIRST PERSON, AND THE STORY SHARED MUST HAVE ACTUALLY HAPPENED.
When a loved one dies, it is natural to ask difficult faith-related
questions and to wonder where God is when the pain is so intense
you think it will never go away. A loved one's death also
creates new problems to be dealt with as we learn to live without
that person's physical presence in our lives. When grieving
is intense, problems that stem from the loss can seem like insurmountable
The purpose of this book is to share the faith-related lessons we
have learned that have helped us come to grips with our grief and
assisted us in leading happy, fulfilling lives again. We are
particularly interested in the following:
1. Faith-related insights related to the subject of death
and your grief. Click
Here to See: I've
2. Ways your faith was strengthened by
your search for answers to the tough questions surrounding the death
of your loved one. Click
Here to See: A
Little Private Book
3. Examples of how God has sustained you, spoken to you, perhaps
caused some friend to come to your assistance, or in some other
way been present for you or revealed to you during this tough time.
Here to See: The
Day the Clouds Parted
4. A description of how you dealt with a specific problem
related to the death and how God helped you with that process, or
how your faith was strengthened by it. Click
Here to See: That's
Not Bread; That's Cake!
A sample of each of these from our previous books can be found by
clicking on the links above to give you a better idea of what we
are looking for, as well as a sample of our style. You will find
an additional sample by viewing the web pages for each of the books.
Please read the guidelines carefully before writing for us. CLICK
THE GREY BUTTON BELOW TO SEE THE GUIDELINES.
WHATEVER YOU CHOOSE TO WRITE ABOUT, THE IMPORTANT THING TO REMEMBER
IS THAT WE ARE NOT INTERESTED IN MATERIAL THAT TELLS OTHERS HOW
THEY SHOULD FEEL OR WHAT THEY SHOULD DO, WHAT WE WANT IS MATERIAL
THAT SAYS, "THIS IS WHAT HELPED ME; MAYBE IT WILL HELP YOU TOO."
Sharing these emotions in writing can be painful, but it can also
be very healing. We hope it will be a positive force in your
life. Thank you for responding to this challenge and good
luck. I'm looking forward to hearing from you.
GUIDELINES - MEDITATIONS
FOR THE BEREAVED
FOLLOWING A NEW ROAD
that he that is a friend to himself is a friend to all men.
I had to acknowledge and accept
the fact that I would always be lonely before I could handle my
loneliness. That there would never again be a glance across
the room holding within it remembered fun, shared joys or sorrows,
or understanding of the present moment that went beyond words. That
there would be no arm across my shoulder promising support, comfort,
or tenderness. Only then could I realize it was my responsibility
to develop and grow, or retreat and wither.
My choice was to reach out, and when I did I found friends at church,
at a senior center, and in my apartment complex. Yet after
fifteen years of widowhood, when I am full of the need to talk of
my day, I still experience acute loneliness when I open my door
and only silence meets me. It is then that I telephone a friend
to find they are as much in need to share their day as I. We
make plans to meet or talk again and I put this on my calendar. A
calendar gives purpose to a day.
I felt recurring loneliness when I stretched out a cold foot in
bed and there was no warm foot to meet it. So I bought an electric
blanket and its cozy warmth insures sleep most nights. But, if I
do wake up, I reach for pad and pencil and list all the things I
should do. Then I list what I'd like to do. New ideas often challenge
me in the morning.
One scrawl said, "Do something you've never done." Searching
for that "something," I looked at the typewriter on which I had
hunted and pecked for years. Then I bought Touch Typing In Ten Easy
Lessons. Well, maybe, but I'm better than I was four months ago!
Another time I took pencil drawing at a senior center and looked
at the world from a different perspective. That gave me new self-confidence!
Time alone threatens, so I turn to books. Books to laugh with when
I eat my solitary meals. Books to grow with in discovering new worlds.
Mysteries for suspense and certainty of solutions. Books to argue
with. Old friends re-discovered on my own shelves. Books for spiritual
Thus I fill my days with possibilities and give thanks to God who
has led me to them.
help me to keep growing and to reach out and discover anew the wonders
in this life you are giving to me.
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